This year’s wedding season is coming to a close for me.
It’s been an interesting year, my first as a husband and father. I’ve been much more careful to wear sunscreen this year.
And I’ve been thinking about venues and how people decide which one to choose?
With apologies to Baz Luhrman, and one of my favourite songs of the 90s, I will dispense this advice now…
Baz Luhrman ‘Everybody’s Free To Wear Sunscreen’
Brides and Grooms, wear Sunscreen
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists
whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
than my own meandering experience…
Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s
How do you pick the right venue?
Get good advice. Talk to your wedding planner and other people whose advice you respect.
You’re going to spend a lot of money on the venue. Like buying a house, this is definitely BUYER BEWARE. You can find out the venues that are excellent and those that don’t deliver on their promises. Use the internet. Read Trip Advisor, read blogs, look at facebook, look at wedding forums.
Don’t assume spending more money is a guarantee of better service.
If a venue has been open for years and has a reputation for excellent service you can be more confident that it will deliver you the same high standards. If a venue has a reputation for poor service, rude staff or other recurring problems then the chances are you’ll suffer from the same.
This week I’ve done four weddings
- My first time on the recently opened Sunborn Yacht Hotel, the 5 star floating hotel in Gibraltar harbour. A stunning looking venue. The next day the bride posted a list of thank yous on facebook. I was thanked for doing a good job. So were others but not the venue. It’s not just the experience of the couple I djed for. How does the venue need to improve? Start by reading Trip Advisor.
- Another wedding for me at Puro Beach. They’ve spent some money there in the last few weeks improving facilities for guests. They’ve also made improvements to their level of service. Having heard a catalogue of complaints from others I was nervous. Yet it turned out to be one of the best nights I’ve had this year. This is what the bride and groom wrote: “We are back home and still enjoying every moment of our wedding. You made our party BOOM. So glad we booked you.” Brilliant.
- My first wedding for a couple of years at Villa Padierna. They have a new coordinator in house to work with the wedding planners. She is great. Unfortunately she wasn’t there when one of the staff turned the electricity off to my equipment half way through the bride and groom’s last song. Imagine a well oiled wedding where the DJ lets you down at the end. It’s going to end the night on a disappointing low. The crowd wanted an encore and in just about every other venue I’ve ever played in, they would have got one. The hotel put me in danger and I was genuinely scared. You’d expect a better level of service in a rent by the hour motel in a third rate American movie. 5 star service? Not in my opinion. I wonder if they behaved like that when Michelle Obama was staying there.
- Finally, last night Estrella del Mar, Vincci Elviria. High levels of service making for a lovely wedding. Brilliant.
Most of the weddings and parties I dj at are for people who’ve travelled to Spain for a destination wedding. An increasing number are for people who’re here and know me, have seen me or been recommended to use me. I’m proud of that, I work hard to maintain the good reputation I’ve gained.
Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts,
Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours
If you’re travelling to Spain for your wedding, please remember that the standards you have at home may not be the same as those you find here. When you’re being served a drink at home, it may be acceptable to grab the pourer’s elbow so you get more alcohol in a drink, but here that causes huge offence. It’s also pretty sad when you’ve got a free bar anyway.
Perhaps it’s worth reminding yourself that, like me, you’re a guest in a foreign country. Staff at venues are human. Treat them badly and you’ll reap what you sow.
Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t
Maybe Spain will suit you, maybe it won’t
But trust me on the sunscreen.
28 September 2014
Baz Luhrman ‘Everybody’s Free To Wear Sunscreen’
Ladies and Gentlemen
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be
it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by
scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
than my own meandering
experience…I will dispense this advice now. Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not
understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and
recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before
you and how fabulous you really looked….You’re not as fat as you
imagine. Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as
effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing
bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that
never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm
on some idle Tuesday. Do one thing everyday that scares you Sing Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with
people who are reckless with yours. Floss Don’t waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes
you’re behind…the race is long, and in the end, it’s only with
yourself. Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you
succeed in doing this, tell me how. Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements. Stretch Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your
life…the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they
wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year
olds I know still don’t. Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone. Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll have children,maybe
you won’t, maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky
chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary…what ever you do, don’t
congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either – your
choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s. Enjoy your body,
use it every way you can…don’t be afraid of it, or what other people
think of it, it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever
own.. Dance…even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room. Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them. Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly. Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for
good. Be nice to your siblings; they are the best link to your past and the
people most likely to stick with you in the future. Understand that friends come and go,but for the precious few you
should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and
lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you
knew when you were young. Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live
in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft. Travel. Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will
philander, you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize
that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were
noble and children respected their elders. Respect your elders. Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund,
maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one
might run out. Don’t mess too much with your hair, or by the time you’re 40, it will
look 85. Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who
supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of
fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the
ugly parts and recycling it for more than
it’s worth. But trust me on the sunscreen…
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